Imagine sitting across from someone you could possibly be soulmate. You can feel your pulse racing, sweat dripping from your palms and you are wondering if you have spinach stuck in you teeth. First dates are like rollercoasters without the safety bar. No need to worry. There are some tricks we can use to guide you through the wild ride. Read more now on Giving You More Dates.
Be yourself, but not too much
Have you ever heard the expression “be yourself?” Let’s not take the advice too literally. If you want to keep the conversation authentic, save your obsession about collecting toenail-clippings for a later date. Begin by talking about common interests and joking. The goal is a relaxed atmosphere in which both parties can be themselves.
Listening Power
Imagine being at a show where there are only solos and no harmonizing. If one person takes the lead, a date can be like that. Ask them questions that show an interest in their lives and opinions. Listening is more than hearing words. You need to understand feelings and experience.
Dress to Impress – But Comfortably
All of us want to look as if we stepped straight out of the pages of a fashion mag on our first date. But comfort is more important than style. Your demeanor may change if your shoes pinch or your dress makes it difficult to breathe. Wear something that is comfortable yet makes you confident.
How to Choose the Right Setting
The location of a meeting can make a date or break it faster than you think. Avoid noisy clubs and fancy restaurants. Instead, choose places with a relaxed atmosphere where conversations can flow.
Keep it light
The first date is not the time to discuss serious topics such as politics and ex-partners, unless you wish to see just how quickly a person can flee from a potentially awkward situation. Try to keep the conversation light by bringing up topics like favorite movies, funny childhood memories, or travel dreams.
Pay Attention to Body language
Actions are often more powerful than words. Crossed arms may be a sign of discomfort whereas leaning towards someone shows interest. Mirroring movements is another way to subconsciously create rapport.
Don’t Ghost–Communicate!
Don’t disappear as Houdini did after the first meeting. Texting your feelings is a great way to show respect and maintain decency.
Humor is a powerful tool
A good laugh will help you to relax and reduce tension. Avoid anything too risque, until you have gotten to know your partner better. Share light-hearted jokes or funny stories.
Plan Ahead But Stay Flexible
While having a strategy is important, being flexible and adaptable are equally as vital. If you find that your favorite cafe is closed unexpectedly, prepare a backup or ask the staff what they want instead.
If You Want to Be Successful, Be Honest With Your Intentions
It is better to communicate early if you are looking for something serious and they’re only having fun, or vice versa. This will prevent them from leading you down different paths that could lead to a crash.
There you have it — a treasure chest of tips that should help transform those nerve-wracking initial dates into pleasant experiences to remember! Whether you are a novice at dating or have been away for a while, these tips can be a useful guide.